Sex, Here & Now

On this episode of Sex, Here & Now, I sit down with Tiffany Chin for a conversation that feels honest, thoughtful, and very needed right now. Tiffany is officially my first interview on Sex, Here & Now, and I could not have asked for a better person to kick this off with. We talk about how we met, how our work overlaps, and why helping clients navigate dating as singles and solos has become such an important part of modern therapy.

We dive into the difference between being “single” and being “solo,” drawing from Peter McGraw’s framework, and unpack why singlehood is not a waiting room for partnership. It is a fully valid and healthy relationship style. We explore how dating should be an addition to your life, not the thing that defines your worth. We also get into BARs, boundaries, agreements, and rules, and why they matter no matter your relationship structure.

We talk openly about heteronormativity and mononormativity in dating spaces, and how those systems shape the way people move through apps, relationships, and even therapy. There is something powerful about connecting with clients through shared lived experience, and Tiffany brings new perspective to what it means to build a life that feels full, whether partnered or not.

If you are dating, questioning dating, happily single, intentionally solo, or trying to figure out where you land, this episode will give you language, validation, and maybe a little permission to do it differently.

You can find Tiffany on Instagram @tiffany_chin 

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Welcome to my series of mini-episodes that I call Matt’s Musings. These episodes will be short, focused, and center on tips and tricks relating to human sexuality that I think are important for all of us to know and understand. And hey, you now get to hear me more often? What a treat!

Today, we are talking about how awkward sex can be. Sex is awkward! And in fact, we want it to be. 

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Dating today can feel exhausting, confusing, and honestly… like you’re doing everything wrong. In this episode, I break down what it actually means to date for you instead of dating to be liked, chosen, or approved of. We talk about mindful dating, knowing your why, cultivating confidence, using dating apps intentionally, and how the media you consume quietly shapes your dating experience.

I also share a personal story about “the hockey guy” and how ignoring early signals can pull us away from ourselves, even when someone looks good on paper. This episode is for anyone who feels burnt out, stuck in patterns that do not serve them, or questioning whether dating is supposed to feel this hard.

Dating is not about performing or proving your worth. It is about connection, clarity, and staying aligned with who you are. If you are ready to stop dating on autopilot and start dating with intention, this episode is for you.

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Welcome to my series of mini-episodes that I call Matt’s Musings. These episodes will be short, focused, and center on tips and tricks relating to human sexuality that I think are important for all of us to know and understand. And hey, you now get to hear me more often? What a treat!

Today, we are going to be exploring how desire is not a personality trait and why we need to stop treating it like it is.

New full-length episodes dropping every week! “Matt’s Musings” episodes dropping every other week!

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Why would I choose polyamory when monogamy is the default, the norm, and often the expectation?

In this episode of Sex, Here and Now, I share why I chose to be poly and what that choice actually came from. This is not an argument for polyamory and it is not a how to guide. It is a personal reflection on curiosity, honesty, attachment, fear, growth, and the unlearning that comes with questioning relationship scripts we are told are universal.

I talk openly about what drew me to polyamory, what felt uncomfortable in the beginning, what surprised me, and what this relationship structure continues to teach me about intimacy, jealousy, communication, and self responsibility. I also challenge the idea that polyamory is about avoiding commitment or wanting more sex, and instead explore it as a framework that requires intention, emotional labor, and deep honesty.

This episode is for anyone who has ever questioned whether the relationship model they were given actually fits. Whether you are monogamous, polyamorous, curious, or somewhere in between, my hope is that this conversation invites you to think less about the “right” way to do relationships and more about what alignment actually looks like.

Not all relationships struggle because of polyamory or monogamy. Some struggle because we never stop to ask ourselves what we truly want.

Past Poly Episode

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Valentine’s Day is supposed to be about romance, connection, and great sex. So why does it leave so many people feeling pressured, disappointed, or disconnected?

In this episode, I unpack why Valentine’s Day wrecks so many sex lives. From unrealistic expectations and comparison culture to obligation sex and performative intimacy, we explore how a holiday meant to celebrate love often ends up doing the opposite. You’ll learn why pressure kills desire, how social media distorts intimacy, and why good sex cannot be scheduled by the calendar.

This episode is for anyone who has ever felt behind, broken, or like they were doing relationships wrong on February 14th. Whether you are single, partnered, or polyamorous, this conversation invites you to step off the script and redefine intimacy on your own terms.

Because Valentine’s Day is not a performance, and intimacy is not something you prove.

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Well, this is my first expert on expert podcast episode. Who's excited? Today, I am chatting with Julie Labanz, an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist, owner of BeKnown Therapy in Cincinnati, Ohio, and a close personal friend. Julie and I talk about all things relating to Porn, masturbation, and why dating younger feels so icky for us. Before we get started, a quick disclaimer. This chat was recorded during an Instagram Live, so the audio may not be as crisp as usual. But I promise you, you will love this conversation. Julie is incredibly knowledgeable and I learn so much from her every time we talk. And with that, sit back and enjoy my conversation with Julie Labanz.

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Welcome to my series of mini-episodes that I call Matt’s Musings. These episodes will be short, focused, and center on tips and tricks relating to human sexuality that I think are important for all of us to know and understand. And hey, you now get to hear me more often? What a treat!

Today, we are going to be exploring why you need to stop waiting to talk about sex and just do it! 

New full-length episodes dropping every week! “Matt’s Musings” episodes dropping every other week!

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In this episode, we get real about why so many people aren’t having sex and why that doesn’t mean anything is wrong with you or your relationship. I break down five common reasons intimacy fades, including lack of communication, avoiding vulnerability, unspoken resentment, waiting to feel “in the mood,” and simply not prioritizing connection. This episode is honest, validating, and grounded in what I see every day as a sex and relationship therapist, with the goal of helping you better understand what’s actually getting in the way of desire and how to start rebuilding intimacy.

 

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We are back! We are motivated! We are talking about Heated Rivalry! In this episode:

- I will talk about my obsession with Heated Rivalry.

- Explore why representation matters for athletes and queer folx.

- Explore the sex, duh!

- Explain why this kind of content resonates with women. 

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