Sex, Here & Now

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Sex, Here & Now is a podcast rooted in sex positivity, inclusivity, and honest conversations about the realities of sex and modern relationships. The goal is simple: to inform, to educate, and to clear up the misconceptions that continue to dominate our culture about intimacy and relationships. We live in a world that is still wildly sex negative, shaped by shame, purity culture, misinformation, and outdated scripts about what intimacy “should” look like. This podcast exists to challenge that. I want to create a space where we can talk openly about desire, communication, consent, kink, monogamy, non-monogamy, pleasure, dysfunction, body image, and everything in between without judgment. By highlighting diverse voices, challenging myths, and nurturing open dialogue, my hope is to show that sex does not have to be scary and we can, in fact, have a more sex positive culture.

Episodes

22 hours ago

Matt's Musings: Desire is Not a Personality Trait

22 hours ago

Welcome to my series of mini-episodes that I call Matt’s Musings. These episodes will be short, focused, and center on tips and tricks relating to human sexuality that I think are important for all of us to know and understand. And hey, you now get to hear me more often? What a treat!

Today, we are going to be exploring how desire is not a personality trait and why we need to stop treating it like it is.

New full-length episodes dropping every week! “Matt’s Musings” episodes dropping every other week!

You can now watch the full video podcast on YouTube!

Let's get social: Website / Instagram / YouTube

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4 days ago

My Journey Into Polyamory. Buckle Up!

4 days ago

Why would I choose polyamory when monogamy is the default, the norm, and often the expectation?

In this episode of Sex, Here and Now, I share why I chose to be poly and what that choice actually came from. This is not an argument for polyamory and it is not a how to guide. It is a personal reflection on curiosity, honesty, attachment, fear, growth, and the unlearning that comes with questioning relationship scripts we are told are universal.

I talk openly about what drew me to polyamory, what felt uncomfortable in the beginning, what surprised me, and what this relationship structure continues to teach me about intimacy, jealousy, communication, and self responsibility. I also challenge the idea that polyamory is about avoiding commitment or wanting more sex, and instead explore it as a framework that requires intention, emotional labor, and deep honesty.

This episode is for anyone who has ever questioned whether the relationship model they were given actually fits. Whether you are monogamous, polyamorous, curious, or somewhere in between, my hope is that this conversation invites you to think less about the “right” way to do relationships and more about what alignment actually looks like.

Not all relationships struggle because of polyamory or monogamy. Some struggle because we never stop to ask ourselves what we truly want.

Past Poly Episode

New episodes drop weekly!

You can now watch the full video podcast on YouTube!

Let's get social: Website / Instagram / YouTube

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Friday Feb 13, 2026

Bonus Episode! Valentine's Day Is Ruining Your Sex Life

Friday Feb 13, 2026

Valentine’s Day is supposed to be about romance, connection, and great sex. So why does it leave so many people feeling pressured, disappointed, or disconnected?

In this episode, I unpack why Valentine’s Day wrecks so many sex lives. From unrealistic expectations and comparison culture to obligation sex and performative intimacy, we explore how a holiday meant to celebrate love often ends up doing the opposite. You’ll learn why pressure kills desire, how social media distorts intimacy, and why good sex cannot be scheduled by the calendar.

This episode is for anyone who has ever felt behind, broken, or like they were doing relationships wrong on February 14th. Whether you are single, partnered, or polyamorous, this conversation invites you to step off the script and redefine intimacy on your own terms.

Because Valentine’s Day is not a performance, and intimacy is not something you prove.

New episodes drop weekly!

You can now watch the full video podcast on YouTube!

Let's get social: Website / Instagram / YouTube

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Monday Feb 09, 2026

Expert on Expert: Chatting with Julie Labanz on Porn, Masturbation, and Dating Younger!

Monday Feb 09, 2026

Well, this is my first expert on expert podcast episode. Who's excited? Today, I am chatting with Julie Labanz, an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist, owner of BeKnown Therapy in Cincinnati, Ohio, and a close personal friend. Julie and I talk about all things relating to Porn, masturbation, and why dating younger feels so icky for us. Before we get started, a quick disclaimer. This chat was recorded during an Instagram Live, so the audio may not be as crisp as usual. But I promise you, you will love this conversation. Julie is incredibly knowledgeable and I learn so much from her every time we talk. And with that, sit back and enjoy my conversation with Julie Labanz.

New episodes drop weekly!

You can now watch the full video podcast on YouTube!

Let's get social: Website / Instagram / YouTube

Please make sure to subscribe and rate my podcast!

Friday Feb 06, 2026

Matt's Musings: Stop Waiting to Feel Ready to Talk about Sex!

Friday Feb 06, 2026

Today, we are going to be exploring why you need to stop waiting to talk about sex and just do it!

New full-length episodes dropping every week! “Matt’s Musings” episodes dropping every other week!

You can now watch the full video podcast on YouTube!

Let's get social: Website / Instagram / YouTube

Please make sure to subscribe and rate my podcast!

Tuesday Feb 03, 2026

Why You Aren't Having Sex

Tuesday Feb 03, 2026

In this episode, we get real about why so many people aren’t having sex and why that doesn’t mean anything is wrong with you or your relationship. I break down five common reasons intimacy fades, including lack of communication, avoiding vulnerability, unspoken resentment, waiting to feel “in the mood,” and simply not prioritizing connection. This episode is honest, validating, and grounded in what I see every day as a sex and relationship therapist, with the goal of helping you better understand what’s actually getting in the way of desire and how to start rebuilding intimacy.

New episodes drop weekly!

You can now watch the full video podcast on YouTube!

Let's get social: Website / Instagram / YouTube

Please make sure to subscribe and rate my podcast!

Tuesday Jan 27, 2026

The One About Heated Rivalry

Tuesday Jan 27, 2026

We are back! We are motivated! We are talking about Heated Rivalry! In this episode:

- I will talk about my obsession with Heated Rivalry.

- Explore why representation matters for athletes and queer folx.

- Explore the sex, duh!

- Explain why this kind of content resonates with women.

New episodes drop weekly!

You can now watch the full video podcast on YouTube!

Let's get social: Website / Instagram / YouTube

Please make sure to subscribe and rate my podcast!

Monday Aug 26, 2024

You Don't Have to be Afraid of Polyamory

Monday Aug 26, 2024

I wanted to talk a little bit about polyamory today specifically, why you don’t have to be afraid of it. We poly folx are not here to get you and turn your partners into poly monsters who crave multiple partners. Lol. Today I wanted to focus on a few reasons why people don't need to fear this perfectly health relationship style.

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